you discover your boyfriend has a ring in his jewelery box you've been...

transplanted · #1 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 10:48 PM

...together 2 1/2 yr s never seen it before, its new he has never mentioned that he got it, he goes out of town ,out of curiosity i check and its not there he's secretly wearing it why?? because whoever gave it to him will be at where he went to on bussiness? or he wants to look married ? which is his lame excuse when i confront him is he cheating ??why would he keep it secret ???

That Person · #2 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 11:16 PM

wow. idk. ask him and if he over reacts then he mite be cheating

satans_faithful_servant · #3 (**permalink**) 08-10-2008, 04:25 AM

have you ever thought that he might be thinking about proposing.

texasborn52 · #4 (**permalink**) 08-10-2008, 06:49 PM

sounds like he could be cheating on youlook for it when he returns, if it is back in place... chances are he isask him about it... if you can, hire a PI to follow him to find out for sure

Drew G · #5 (**permalink**) 08-11-2008, 07:44 AM

That is unusual. Never heard of that before. The ring thing is a hard on to answer as it could mean so many things. I say trust him for the time being. Just confront him again and just ask him. Maybe the ring is just a special ring he wears outside, I have one. Just KEEP TRUSTDrew

kaso222000 · #6 (**permalink**) 08-11-2008, 02:27 PM

You know it's possible he's wearing it as a reminder to himself that he is taken while he is away. I have done this as well especially if the people I'm with are all married. You feel more in place and he's referring to you as his wife not his girlfriend. Tell him that you found it putting away his watch or chain, whatever he may keep near this ring and you were curious about it. Be careful not to sound accusing though you may get more than you bargained for.

Btammy · #7 (**permalink**) 08-11-2008, 04:04 PM

Worst case scenario: ur dating a married man. Good case scenario: .......it cant b ur ring cuz he wudnt wear a female engagement ring....not at all good i gues.

mythril_bladed_k · #8 (**permalink**) 08-11-2008, 06:13 PM

Wow, Snoops-a-Lot thinks he's cheating. Well, hmm, Why don't you ask yourself why are you looking in his personal stuff, isn't that cheating also? You think he'll be mad at you for searching in things that he keeps private. You aren't married to him, so you can't have any kind of legal bind to search in his stuff. Who knows what it is. He's probably looking for someone to buy the ring, or he's probably found someone to buy the ring, or maybe it was a ring he found. I don't know, and neither do you. What kind of woman would think like this? A low-self-esteem selfish brat who can't trust someone she presumes to love and makes baseless-accusations, just because he has a ring. Have you ever thought that it wasn't a wedding band? There are different kinds of rings, and they just don't have to be wedding bands.