Should I take back all the personalized jewelery I gave my ex girlfriend?

italianfilmaker · #1 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 01:23 PM

My ex-girlfriend and I were together for 3 years. About 5 months ago we broke up, and now she's already with someone else (which I must admit does hurt quite a bit). I bought her a lot of jewlery which I also personalized, such as: various necklaces including a Tiffany & Co. necklace with our names and anniversary date engraved, a bracelet with our names engraved, a nice watch, and to top it off...a promise ring with three diamonds. Yes I really loved this girl. I'm really tempted to take it back now that she has a new man, I don't feel right having her wear them in his presence since they have sentimental value to me. I just don't want to be a child about it. What do you guys think is right? Should I just let her keep them as a memory of me?

Fanservice · #2 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 10:33 PM

Giving all those gifts to her were a form of investment. You didn't get what you wanted. Your lost. Sorry buddy.

wOuldnt yOu like tO knOw · #3 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 10:43 PM

well if you have any of the recipts that are in your name saying you purchased them..i would take her to court so you can get them back!..i have been with my man for 4 years and i have the reciept for he PS3 i got him! ALSO if you have them personalized with your guys names on them...her new man isn't gonna be havin that!..i know i wouldnt..im a girl by the way

great_cards2004 · #4 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 10:48 PM

let her keep them.....im sure her new man won't appreciate her wearing them in his presence.

Sophie Kris · #5 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 10:56 PM

You wont do any wrong asking them back as per me. She is already dating another man...but if you see any possibility of you two getting back at any time then its better not to. If not, then just go ahead and ask her to return them.

caleb0685 · #6 (**permalink**) 08-09-2008, 11:16 PM

A gift is a gift, right?Just ask yourself why you gave it to ther in the firstplace. Was it to make her happy? ... Or to get something in return?I would let her keep the things if she wants to...But make up your own mind...Be good! Caleb

robrobiii · #7 (**permalink**) 08-11-2008, 04:35 AM

Asking for it back is pretty bad. I wouldn't. And there is really no reason why she would have to give it back anyway. Gifts are now the property of the receiver. Sorry.But at least you have all the nice stuff she gave you, right? Unless she didn't return the excessive, ostentatious gifting, which might have been a clue where things were headed...

Out of the blue · #8 (**permalink**) 08-11-2008, 04:04 PM

I understand it must be very hard for you, however you should let her decide what she wants to do with them. In fact, I think that she should be the one to give them back to you, and maybe ask you if she can keep something as a memory of you. But you cannot decide for her.

a64dawg · #9 (**permalink**) 08-11-2008, 06:24 PM

If you happened to end on "somewhat" level ground and still talk, why not ask her about it? Tell her how you feel and how sentimental some pieces are and that they mark "YOUR" relationship and you'd like to keep something marking that since they can't be returned anyway. She may rethink what's happened and a) come back after a short period of sinking in knowing how you really feel or b) give back some, if not all of the pieces.It's hard to tell, not knowing what type of person she is, but 3 years is a good long while for any relationship these days. Something held you together besides jewelry, right? Good luck.

dukemack · #10 (**permalink**) 08-11-2008, 09:42 PM

They were gifts. They are not yours to ask for back.