Should I take back all the personalized jewelery I gave my ex girlfriend? - Page 2

Cadsuane · #11 (**permalink**) 08-12-2008, 11:06 AM

legaly their hers you cant do thatbut you can talk to her about it in a mature way, it migth be she will be relived to get them off her handshave a friend who dont know what to do with gifts from past, she dont feel rigth using them and contemplating giving them away just explain cost a lot of money and your in thigth spot or something...but all depend on the girl, legaly its herspersonaly i'd want to return it as wouldnt feel rigth to keep em...but really depend on girl, cant take her to court or anyting, be nice about it and migth get it back..migth not, all depend on the girl

mikel lane · #12 (**permalink**) 08-12-2008, 09:06 PM

up to you. if you could use it then yeah take it back. but if not then forget it. i mean what would you do with it anyways? only take it if she was really a B!tch

gottalovethosebrowneyes · #13 (**permalink**) 08-13-2008, 08:56 AM

My first thought when I read this was " WTF what would he do with them?" and then I realized that you could probably either pawn them for money or maybe return them and get your money back! However, I also realize that it isn't even about the money or even the jewelery! It's about the fact that you guys were really serious and then you just broke up and it took her all of 4 seconds to move on to another guy. I think that you'd be okay with her keeping them if you actually felt like she'd taken the time to recover from your relationship ending instead of acting like being together for 3 years wasn't a big deal. I totally understand where you are coming from. Keep in mind that you can ask for them back but it doesn't mean she will give them back. I can see how she would want to keep them because as a girl I can understand the sentimental value of them. However, I can also see how you would want them back as well. Since you poured your heart and your wallet into those gifts. I think that it's best to just let it go and let her keep them. It's not really worth the effort it may take to get them back or the pain it might cause you to talk to her about them or just to her in general. I don't know how your relationship ended whether it was a mutual split and ended on somewhat decent terms or if it was a really bad break- up. Consider the circumstances and the reasons why you ended things as a couple and decide if those circumstances are a good reason for you to feel like you need those gifts back from her. Then if you decide to talk to her about them just approach the situation calmly. If you ask for anything back I'd say that you should ask for the promise ring! Isn't that to say that you are kinda engaged but just not officially? I think that's okay to ask for that back!!! I mean I think it's okay to ask for all of it back but if you don't want to seem to pushy with the whole jewelery issue I'd just ask for the ring back!!! Just remember what I said- Consider how the relationship ended and go from there in how you pursue this issue! Good luck!

Conscience · #14 (**permalink**) 08-14-2008, 03:43 AM

they were gifts. the only thing that you might be able to justify is the promise rings if she broke it off with you because its almost like an engagement ring. and she could keep it with the intent to be engaged, but since that didn't happen, it could be returned to you.personally though, i'd say it might be best to move on and forget about the gifts. it could cause more of a problem to get the ring back then you want.